“What is my job as a parent?” “Do I have my identity too wrapped up in my kids?” Your answers to these types of questions will shape your perspective and strategy on parenting.

Talking Points:

  • If we think we “own” our kids’ destinies, then the focus shifts to our abilities and skills as parents to bring about success.  If we think we’re in charge, we’ll get caught up in a shortsighted view of life.
  • Parents are tasked with raising kids who will fulfill God’s plans for their lives. God created our kids with unique skills and abilities that fit his plan for them. We need to stop trying to be God for our kids and let God lead the way. Psalm 127:3, 
  • Here are some things we should do to bring God’s perspective into our homes: Deuteronomy 6:6-9
    • Pray for your kids every day to have the opportunities they need to fulfill God’s purposes.
    • Do family devotionals and talk about priorities, values, and identity.
    • Talk to a godly couple who are further along in the journey of parenting.
Discussion:
  1. Initial reactions to this topic? What jumped out at you?
  2. How would you describe your role as a parent? How has that perspective shaped how you parent?
  3. How would people close to you describe you as a parent?
  4. What are some common mistakes parents tend to make who think that they control the destiny of their kids?
  5. Identify the areas of your kids’ lives where you feel like you need to give them every advantage to succeed. How might you be crossing the line between being productive vs. trying to take control?
  6. Read Psalm 127:3. Why is it important to remember that our kids are a gift from God? How should this insight affect the way we parent?
  7. Read Deuteronomy 6:6-9. Is God a priority in your home? Explain. What can you start doing to bring more of God’s perspective in your home?
  8. Is there a step you need to take based on today’s topic?